Make an effort
The grass is not greener on the other side. It’s greener where you water it. —guacgirl
Don’t compare your relationship to others
You wouldn’t take a job based on what the break room looked like, so you shouldn’t aspire to be a couple you only see when they’re having fun. —Vandelay_Latex_Sales
Air your grievances
My wife and I have a 24-hour rule. If there’s a problem, we each have 24 hours to bring it to the other person’s attention. This keeps us from sitting on something until it blows up. If you don’t bring it up in a day, it’s not important enough to fight over. —Psychopathic_bassist
Fall in love more than once
The girl you met in college is not the same person as the woman with a career, who is not the same person as the mother of babies, who is not the same person as the mother of teenagers, who is not the same person as the retiree. The best relationships aren’t the ones where you meet and fall in love, they’re the ones where you do it over and over again. —synthesis11
Look until you find the right fit
If she’s amazing, she won’t be easy. If she’s easy, she won’t be amazing. If she’s worth it, you won’t give up. If you give up, you’re not worthy. Truth is, everybody is going to hurt you; you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for.—harrekrsna quoting Bob Marley
Watch closely
You can gauge a person’s love for you by how they treat you when they’re upset with you. —MaddenMan73
Schedule time together
On our wedding night, I told my wife that we now had a 2/2/2 rule. Every two weeks, we go out for the evening. Every two months, we go out for the weekend. Every two years, we go out for a week. We’ve stuck to it, and it really has made things awesome. —ckernan2